I'm baaaack....

I've just finished two diplomas:
one medical
one justice

Each time, I was surrounded by young ones.  Sometimes they provided excellent advice and sometimes they asked for my experiences.

Themes circle around:

1. "friends" with benefits
   (air quotes because really... it's a booty call)
2. friends with no "benefits"
   (air quotes because benefits means sexual gratification)
3. navigating the world of online dating
4. selfish/childish partners

Sidebar: the slang, these days, is enough to make my ears wrinkle.
Urban Dictionary is highly informative!

I know there are more sought after blog sites and more nifty apps.

These are my musings indicating how this is always about that.

Hamilton heights

Currently watching the Ted Talks Series called: Sex, Secrets & Love -- my favourite speaker is Brene Brown (episode 5 of 12).  It's amazing the scientific research that has been going on in the last century.

I'm attempting to find rhythm, on my own, for the first "successful" time.  This includes:
* liturgical prayers (which my dad thought was a foreign concept for me)
* reading both fiction and research books (Punk Monk / Cracking the Communication Code / the Lazarus Project / random Biblical text)
* catching up on TV series (just in time for their finales)
* raising my new kitten (Tigger likes to preen with his sharp little claws and teeth)
* participating in my community (helping the less fortunate and joining the Roller Derby)
* looking for work (perpetually investigating my pending career)
* exploring personal interests (essentially daydreaming)
* writing (and daydreaming) to generally philosophize about the human condition

The sweetest realization is that Hamilton is happy to adopt me!

Four years on...

Four years on... I'm only slightly more experienced - choosing to remain inexperienced.

My most intriguing thoughts centre around amalgamating sexuality/sensuality with spirituality.
An unexpected addition that increases the intensity which usually translates to deeper intimacy and stronger feelings of satisfaction.

Tantric sex is a popularised example of this connection. My understanding is that a couple moves past the physical, at the beginning, to attain a mind-blowing, potent and a physical union that can build for hours. I'd love to see this as the norm for married and committed relationships.

This requires more attention and investment than can be found in the passing fancy of an experience or moment. The bonds of time demand some kind of contract for this culmination. Promises of the banal and everyday sort... Promises for appreciation and confidence... Promises that appropriately put other before self without loss of independance or genuine affection.

Sex is never just sex. It's a reflection to things that are deeper.

Confidence

Confidence affects every area. Lack of is apparent in the bedroom... with overcompensation or "failure to launch".

It intrigues me how quickly insecurity is unmasked once you recognize behaviours and triggers.

Everywhere I look, confidence has been derailed with pride or false humility.

One day - we will see ourselves as we are.

Smart, Sexy, ____

Smart, Sexy, ____

Oh! did I mention single? In the exhuberant way not the disappointed way.

I have independance, save the laws and obligations of friendship.
Freedom, including the opportunities for a one-night stand.
Green-er grass, or no grass... to increase my amount of "freedom".

Either way, it's boiling down to how much sex I can have or choose to have or whatever.

I'm not maximizing or diversifying my options however I am living vicariously through the experiences of others :o)

Inexperienced

Inexperienced

This word stands out. Doctors aid patients without experience of malady. My strength is drawn from listening. Training does not come from exploring every avenue of fetish, taste or position - since these are opinion based. Exposure to more than normal comes with the territory... hence the non-judgemental approach.

first entry

Puns and crass humour are not my intention... although inevitable inside my headspace. *ahem*

Sex is everywhere... as are opinions regarding it. Of course, mine are well rounded. Such a one, as this: change the world, one family at a time.

Sex is the thermometer of a relationship / a part rather than the parcel. With this understanding - couples can measure their health. This translates to their children... which is further modelled to their community (school, work and play environments). As communities change, so do societies... sweeping the globe.

Health and Dysfunction are somewhat subjective. Even with seemingly recognizable differences. Problems are easy to suss, especially for onlookers who range from concerned loved ones to those working through similiar circumstances; commentary included. Cultivating health, however, requires an outside party and personal space.

Sex Therapy ranges from education regarding the bodies' pleasure centres through to advise in overcoming the normal "hum drum". It encompasses marriage counselling and addresses sexual perversion. Textbook/Pop psychology may be an aid, in this arena... however, INTIMACY is the goal. Not the correct answer, behaviour or variation.

McSex explains my stance. Here, ends my introduction.